First dates usually bring jittering feeling to most of us. In hope for our date with someone special for the first time to be flawless, sometimes our scheme doesn’t go usually as planned. Perfect date doesn’t necessarily mean what has been planned goes well; it’s the chemistry between the couple that matters most. This article jots down the signs of what a perfect date really is.
When you are 15 and have absolutely no idea what happens in a date, you think that everything is fine as long as you get a nice bouquet of flowers, your mascara does not run, and nothing is stuck between your teeth. Your standards naturally change after concluding every date taking note of what to do and what to avoid on your forthcoming dates. After nearly a decade of dating, hundreds of flowers in all colors and sizes, and thousands of good and bad dates (combined of course), let me share with you what constitutes my idea of a “perfect date”.
We are both on time.
I am one of those people who equally hate waiting and being late. I try my best to be on time if not early by at least ten minutes. Being early allows me to breathe in and out, kissing my anxiety attacks goodbye. I expect this of my date as well because really, waiting is such a waste of something that’s irreversible.
We are actually talking.
You’ve got to admit that dinner invitations are quite threatening in their own little way. Unless you’ve already had small talks before your first dinner date, the time between placing orders and food arrival can be pretty awkward. There’s also the inept moment after eating if you are capping the night with a kiss or not. This also applies to those who’ve been going out for a while since dinners can be sickening too when done frequently. Interesting dining suggestions include Saturday afternoon ice cream at the park, power lunch at the deli, or al fresco brunch. These choices are both inexpensive and less intimidating versus dinners.
We are both dressed appropriately.
Sure, surprise dates are fine please be considerate and tell your date if she needs to dress up or otherwise. I once went to a five star hotel in denim shorts because my date told me we are just going to “hang out”. I couldn’t back out the last minute because our food is ready to be served. Hanging out to me means spending time at the mall or a coffee shop and not with caviar, foie gras, flowers bigger than me, and French wine.
We don’t send mixed signals.
Some of us are dating rookies while others are infamous experts. Before inviting someone out or saying “yes” to an invitation, make sure that you have a good grasp why you are going out with that person. The hopeless romantic will go out with you with the hopes of finding true love while others are just in for a good conversation. Let them know as early as possible to avoid wasting time, money, or even effort.
Flowers, chocolates, and an expensive dinner are great but it really takes so much more to make a perfect date. Sincerity and respect is the key.
